Count Down Until New Years

As of today December 28, 2008 @ 8:17 there are 2 days, 22 hours, 45 minutes and 42 seconds until Thursday, January 1, 2009.

My Date with Mr. Goodbar

We decided to go to dinner and a movie. I was very nervous after all I have not done this for quite some time. He arrived at my door looking fine as ever. I have to admit that I enjoyed every minute that I spent with him. I think he was feeling the same way. He kept trying to find ways to touch me. We'll definitely hang out again. Until next time, much love!

I Have A Date

O.K. it's Friday night and I am on my way out.......on a date. Yes that's right I said a date. I have put this guy off for about two weeks and now left with no excuses I guess I should take him up on his offer. Stay tuned for the details.

Dating? Me?

Who knew at this age I would be dating again. Since my divorce I have goon out on a few dates. I have to tell you dating so different from when I was younger. So far I have gone out with Mr. Can We Have Sex on the First Date, Mr. Will You Neglect Your Children to Be With Me and Mr. No My Wife Does Not Know About My Extramarital Affairs. I was beginning to think that I had a sticker on my forehead that said "I'm Easy." Seriously, I had to ask a number of my girl friends to check my forehead for me. Any who a couple of months ago I met a very nice gentleman who I will call Mr. Sexy Chocolate. Mr. Sexy Chocolate has been flirting with me for a couple of months. Well over the Thanksgiving holiday we went out on our first date. I let him plan the evening and I must say he did very well. Much to my surprise he selected one of my favorite restaurants. He opened my door, pulled out my chair and ordered my meal. I thought I was sleeping standing up but I pinched myself and realized that I was awake. He is a great conservationist, he's well traveled and he makes me laugh which is what I need in my life right now. I'm not taking it to serious because God knows I am not ready for that. For now it's all about having fun in the single lane.

Making Lemonade

Have you ever felt like you were off balance? Like you did not know whether you were coming or going. Like you have no idea what curve ball life was going to throw at you next? Lately I have been feeling an increase in my level of uncertainty. With the present economy growing bleaker each day I find my confidence in job security decreasing. I work in the social services field employed by the state in which I live. Historically working for my employer meant job security however our Governor has been talking more and more about possibly laying off state employee and yours truly has only been employed for 3 years. I'm thinking WTF???? I'm not even dry from the last storm (my divorce) and here comes another one looming around the corner. I am not for prepared for this. Did you hear me? I am not prepared for this. Shortly after my divorce I charted my personal and career goals. Throughout the year I have managed to accomplish most of them. My financial goal was to dig my way out of debt, sell my current home, buy a smaller home and work towards financial independence. Over the past weeks I have lost so much sleep thinking about all the what ifs. How will I pay my mortgage? Will I be able to find a new job in the same salary range. Will I have to move in with my mother? As Barrack said in his acceptance speech ENOUGH! As I learned pre,during and post my divorce I am not in control of the universe. If I were in control my profile would read: Single mom, size 6, millionaire seeks...........etc. I have decided I am not going to stress anymore. When life hands you lemons you make lemonade so I am going to go to the kitchen and make some lemonade. Would you like a glass?

Life After Divorce

Is there life after divorce? Yes I believe there is life after divorce. What I've learned is that divorce is an end but it is also a beginning. The things that were so hard in the beginning and the issues that made me want to stay in bed for the rest of your life have gotten easier to deal with. I am no longer angry and I have even learned to smile again dealing with the Ex is still very difficult but that's because he has not accepted the fact that we are over but I try to be as civil as possible. I'm reconnecting with old friends and have even went out on a few dates but mostly I'm just having fun. Is there life after divorce? Yes, and the key is to make it the best kind of life it can be.